Sticks & Stones

I’m a strong believer that words cut deep, because they do. Don’t care how tough you say your skin is, you remember what someone said whether it brushed off your shoulder or not. You remember you don’t want to mess with that person anymore or you mentally write them off because of something they said. You might even hold someones strong words against them because you just can’t forget those damn words. 

Words that we choose to put together can either encourage someone or totally tear them down. I’m not for team tear down. I don’t think any of you are either. If you are, I hope your heart softens. Sometimes we subliminally become the “tear down person” without even realizing it. We tend to recycle words and spit them back out whenever its “convenient”. Holding grudges against someone isn't cool. Bringing up the past isn’t fair. Throwing hateful words around like it’s nothing isn't RIGHT. What is right though? What’s defined as gentle or not even a big deal? Because telling someone to “get over yourself” may cut real deep to someone already struggling OR make someone laugh and then say “F off”. We’ve all got feelings, even the most “cold-hearted-bitch” out there has them too. Shocker, right? 

I’m the type to shut off after hateful things are said because words cut deep for me and you better believe I remember them. They don’t just go away and never come back. It’s only the things said that are hateful that actually stick and it’s even harder when it’s someone you love. Don’t let anyone brainwash you into allowing your precious and delicate mind to do circles because you just don’t understand why they said that or continue to. Let go. Just let go of that person. They don’t deserve to be in your life if they throw words at you like they are just words. 

Growing up my mom always told me, “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say it all”. MAN, do I hold on to that one! Everyone else should to, in my dreams. Sometimes the best response is no response and sometimes some things are better left unsaid.

Choose your battles. You will regret the ones that weren’t wise.

Much love,


Brannan Bell2 Comments